Tuesday, September 29, 2015

What We Do Without Realizing

So we all know that there's some things in our families that you just don't do right? Maybe it's something like when someone marries into your family and the first greeting they get is, "Oh by the way, don't ever mention Grandma's name around Uncle Phil... It won't be pleasant."
Or maybe it's not as blunt as that.
In most family systems there are family roles, which are the specific roles you play in your family (maybe the peacemaker or the one to go to about gossip), and then there are family rules.
Family rules are an unspoken list of acceptable and unacceptbale behaviors that are allowed in your family. If you're lucky, they might be spoken straight forward like Uncle Phil's. Or the unfortunate cases may be when the rules of what's acceptable are found out through trial and error. Yikes.

Get to get your mind rolling on how your family functions and what your family rules might be, I thought I'd share a few of mine!

1. Show no affection
2. If you act like a victim, you won't gain attention
3. Don't get upset when made fun of or you will just get picked on more
4. Learn to come up with good comebacks or you'll drown
5. Speak your mind
6. Like movies/shows or you will have nothing in common with us

Hopefully that sparks a light bulb to help you analyze your family!

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