The Harm in Being Intimate

One of the things that I learned this week was about being intimate and the things that happen during that process. We all know there's so much about this subject that could be good, harmful, etc. We could go on for days. But I just want to emphasize the important things that we might not be realizing as a society.

When you are in a serious commitment with your loved one, being intimate can be exactly what ties you together and strengthens the love in that relationship. This happens because of the wonderful biochemicals that are released in the brain.
There's:
Seratonin (a feeling of well being and relaxed), Dopamine (a feeling of excitement and thrill), and Oxytocin (a bonding feeling and attraction).

Research has shown that these chemicals happen within women most often. In case you don't know, Oxytocin is the same neurotransmitter chemical that is also release in women when they give birth. This is what causes the immediate bond between the mother and her baby.

This is what causes women and girls to become attached usually after any intimate relations. Now what I would like to make aware is that this can also be very harmful when women have sex, not with the proper person or in the right circumstance/relationship. I think that this explains greatly why some girls may even stay in abusive or unhealthy relationships. When women have sexual relations with men, they form a bond with them. And because this chemical isn't released (at least not that any research has shown) in men, the men don't feel as close with their partner. I think this also could be a correlating reason as to why in some of these abusive or unhealthy relationships, men are able to get up and leave without any attachment or guilt. This may even be why men seem to be more active in having "one night stands".

I think these are very important things to keep in mind and be aware of because this is something that can't really be helped with women, except if they make sure to only keep intimate relations when they are in a committed relationship, like marriage.

One last thing I wanted to mention today, the most interesting fact that I found out that I really want to share to the world: studies have shown that the people who reported the most satisfying and best sex lives were those in their 40's and 50's... Not those in their 20's who tend to sleep around with the most partners.

To me this just testifies that people who are most likely in serious committed relationships and have been together for a long time (having a lot of practice with each other) are more healthy and are bonded together.
Food for thought.